The holiday season is always an opportunity to bond within the family unit. We would have to look up to God to understand what love is for it is through this understanding and the obedience we follow through with that an atmosphere for healthy family life is created. The Word of God is a lamp unto our feet and a light unto our path. It helps us understand where we are and it shows us where we are supposed to be going from there.
Here is what it says about love: 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NLT) 4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. 8 Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever!
One of the greatest challenges in life is human relationship. The key to getting it right is to concentrate on ourselves and the sort of person we ought to be. When we strive daily to become like Jesus, we are amazed at what God would do with it in our world. There are some who concentrate on telling others who they should be and what they ought to be doing while neglecting to speak to themselves. If we are able to concentrate on ourselves and aim at being the best Christ-like person we can ever be in this world, we would be surprised to see how God is turning what we are doing into gold in the lives of others particularly our immediate family.
The true Christian is the man or woman who is very conscious of the fact that God is depending on him or her to show forth the life of Christ beginning at home. Let us listen to Romans 8:29-30 (NRSV) 29 For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, in order that he might be the firstborn within a large family. 30 And those whom he predestined he also called; and those whom he called he also justified; and those whom he justified he also glorified.
The atmosphere of love will pervade a home when each member of the Christian family is committed to being like Jesus. This triggers the power that binds their hearts in love and showers them with wonderful blessings from God. The result is the manifestation of the Fruit of the Holy Spirit by each one. Someone has said that love is behind every of the virtues of joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness (generosity), faithfulness, gentleness (meekness) and self-control. We use these virtues to express love under different circumstances. The Bible says that a life that neither reveals nor expresses love is a complete waste – a total tragedy.
1 Corinthians 13:1-3 (NLT) 1 If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. 3 If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.
Let us remember that goodness and kindness are fraternizing virtues for they are the language of love expressed practically to enrich the lives of others. We use them to create an atmosphere of love in the family. When we are good and kind to those around us, we demonstrate our love in a way they could understand, appreciate and respond to.
Humility or gentleness, which is also translated meekness, is the virtue that enables us to show love at our expense rather than at the expense of others. Life is about sowing and reaping. Goodness and kindness when revealed with humility enable us to sow love into the lives of members of our family, which yields bountiful harvests in due course. An atmosphere of love is electrifying; it empowers success in all dimensions. Why don’t you focus on showing love to your family today and see what the Lord will do with your seed. Amen.
Dr. Onuzo is an acknowledged conference and seminar speaker in different parts of the world. He continues to be available for the work of the ministry despite his busy clinical work. He is also the Associate Pastor of the National Headquarter’s Church of the Foursquare Gospel Church in Nigeria. He is married to Mariam, a medical doctor and they have four children: Dilichi, Chinaza, Dinachi and Chibundu